**So I guess I should preface this and say that I am sure most of you won't agree
with me on this and thats okay, but the reason for my blog was to put my
thoughts out there and thats what this is**
with me on this and thats okay, but the reason for my blog was to put my
thoughts out there and thats what this is**
For some reason the other day driving home with a friend a thought popped into my head...How far would a guy be willing to go to get off?
The real train of thought stemmed from me wondering if a heterosexual male had no woman around to do the job for him would he be willing to use a guy to get off. Obviously masturbation is an option, but what if they wanted something more? A blowjob or sex. It happens in the prison system all the time, straight men turn to other men to get the sexual fulfillment that they desire.
I brought this up to my friend and we discussed it for a bit. I think most straight men would deny it, swear that under no circumstances would they turn to another guy to get some. But I think that they would be trying to protect their reputation, pride whatever. Men need to get laid, it's part of their makeup. I also think for a guy to say no would show how much he underestimates his libido. I for one don't think that getting it on with another guy makes them gay. I think it shows that they are secure in their sexuality. Just like two girls getting it on doesn't make them lesbians. But for some reason two girls exploring their sexuality is considered totally normal and acceptable. While two men who do the same thing are considered otherwise. I think its the feelings behind it that make all the difference.
The Kiss by Niemand8etThis double standard is something that I think about often. Why is it okay for women to comment on how beautiful another woman is but its not okay for a man to do the same when seeing an attractive man? I for one, have no problem saying that "I would totally sleep with that girl" yes, I am typically drunk when I say it, and even though I have never actually followed through on it, no one bats an eyelash when I make the statement. But if a straight guy would say "Dude, I'd screw that guy" instantly everyone would say that he is gay. I don't get it. I think under normal circumstances hetero men are attracted to women and vice-versa but there is that special situation in which you see someone of the same sex that you are inexplicably attracted to. Not that you would pursue it or act on it, but it happens. And thats okay. Because of this, I am sure that a guy, given the right circumstances would absolutely have sex with another guy, despite the fact that one or both of them is straight.
Thoughts?
13 comments:
On my end, I don't think that if I ever needed to get off that I would enlist a girl to do it for me. I find some women attractive, but as I've stated, I hate the vagina.
Since I'm not a guy, I don't know how they feel about utilizing a man to get their rocks off, but going by my skewed ways of thinking, I just know I wouldn't.
As for finding other men attractive, I have dated 2 men who weren't afraid to say "He was a decent looking guy" and they would follow it up with "I am comfortable in my sexuality so I say that honestly"
I LOVE that this thought came out of your mind.
Jossie I love this post- It completly reflects my thoughts on the matter! My Hunny and his friends are very comfortable in their sexuality and have no problem wrestling with there male friends (people who do not know it would think they were gay) I think chicks are hot, but no would never go there because I like men a lot! The other day at the beach a cute girl walks by and my friend looks a me and says "okay I am going to do the guy thing and look at her," and I say "oh I was going to look at her too" and we both rubber neck her and I saw I wish I had an ass like that!
LOL
And yes I think that under the right circumstances men would give in sex with a guy, but some would hold on to their ideals for a while before giving in. My bunny says that he would!!!
Crap, I read a really good article a few days ago but I'm not sure where. It was a study that showed porn to straight and gay people of both sexes. While straight women are often aroused by same-sex porn, men seem to be more rigid. Straight men are less likely to be aroused by gay porn and gay men are less likely to be aroused by straight porn. So the bottom line is there is a genetic reason why women are willing to admit an attraction to another woman. Women's sexuality is more fluid than men's. So if worse comes to worse a woman is more likely to go to another woman to fulfill her needs. A man would have to be fairly desperate to go the same route.
I just watched RockNRolla this weekend, the Guy Ritchie movie with Gerard Butler. It was fairly amusing to watch a straight guy squirm at the thought of helping out a gay friend in a time of need. Straight men can be such morons!
I love this post, I never actually thought this way before. But over here if a girl said about doing another girl, people WILL assume she's a lesbian. Or at least a bisexual. Not exploring or anything. No double standards.
I'm too straight to even wanna explore. I like men too much.
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well i have always felt comfortable complimenting a girl or guy!
but yes when you ask a man to do it for a man he'd say 'it is a man's thing, u wont understand'!
Hmmm
Well my take is that I don't think I would though I can't say for sure. I certainly hope I would never have to decide.
I have heard a guy say "a blowjob is a blowjob no matter who is giving it to me"
So that is another school of thought.
Judging by the small amount of vomit in my mouth right now at the thought though I'm gonna stick with no I don't think I'd do it, prison, stranded on an island or otherwise.
I mean, I'm sure it DOES happen, and probably more often than we'd THINK, but I still don't think it's very often. I don't think women do it any more than men do, either.
came here from facebook ....wonderful post ...
I have been complementing both men and women equally ...and have many female friends who will compliment other females lik ...what an ass , sexy bod , what kissable lips yaa .... we do tease each other saying u got les tendencies ...n no one seems to mind ..
but then I have guys complimenting other guys body but thats more of a gym thing ..he is got good back / biceps ...more than that ..nO
Damn societal norms...
Though, in England for example, it's totally OK for a guy to camp it up if the occasion fits it (check out pantomime, if you've never seen it). Just, in most situations, it's a guy's job to be... straight and manly?
Or perhaps it's just a testosterone-related thing? Certainly, some men are more 'manly' than others.
But having said that, I wouldn't sleep with another guy 'just to have sex' (and you should believe me!) Again, that might be due to my quite low sex drive. I think there are a lot more important things than sex in this world...
Like intimacy! And games! And exploring the world!
I heard about that study Mary was talking about, and I'm fully on board with it. I think women's sexuality is more fluid than men's too. I like my fluidity and am fully comfortable with it...I kinda feel badly for men who can't admit THEIR fluidity...because I also believe in the "continuum" theory (for men and women both) rather than either/or.
HOWEVER, I also think that men would be more apt to get their rocks off with another man than a woman would in desperate situations--why? because men seem to be able to separate the emotional aspect of sex from the physical a bit more easily than women.
I would actually argue that that double standard DOESNT exist.
Whenever a straight girl says, "I'd totally sleep with that girl", I roll my eyes and think she's full of shit!
You know, it's so funny you should write a post about this and I come to read it the day after I dream with having sex with a woman. That blonde woman from Grey's anatomy who is Callie's new girlfriend? The significant part of this dream is that I actually came in real life, in my sleep. The orgasm woke me up. It was intense and it felt real and it was HOT.
I kept thinking this morning WHAT THE FUCK? I've never even fantasized about this woman. BUT, I have fantasized about two women in my entire life, one gorgeous blonde girl I met through a friend, her name is Tiffany, haven't spoken to her in like a year and I barely knew her. And the other one I can't say cause she's a pretty big part of my life right now but I AMAZE myself at the fact I can actually have these bisexual feelings when I am so obviously into penis.
Still, I have a double standard, I must admit. girl + girl = hot exploration. guy + guy = gay. Sorry.
Just doing some catching up, and came across this post. Do you ever listen/read Dan Savage? Because you totally should! So many people think there's a certain way to define sexuality and really it just comes down to the person. Anyways - great post!
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